Role play in the bedroom is something people talk and joke about all the time, but have you ever thought about actually trying it? Many folks fantasize on their own about role play, but it can be nerve wracking actually doing it for the first time. Role play is a great way to spice up your sex life, flex your creative muscles, and escape the stress of everyday life. Today we will be outlining a few tips for you to get started having some new kinky fun.
Before you start any kind of role play, you will want to think about the scenarios you want to play out. Think back on different situations that you enjoyed that featured a power dynamic that might be fun; like the classic teacher/student or boss/secretary dynamics. Role play is essentially taking power dynamics that exist in real life (or ones in fantasy) and acting them out in the bedroom.
Bonus: it’s really fun to brainstorm dirty things via text during the day and then come home to your partner at night to play them out.
Plan your scene
Often with role play, there is a bit of planning involved. Some people like to set out a whole script and give your characters backgrounds, but you don’t need to get that detailed, especially the first time around. If you’re just starting out, it can be fun to just decide on roles and see where the play goes. Make sure to set parameters on the general direction of your play before you start. If you plan on doing any BDSM, it is important to check with your partner about what activities are on the table and which are not. Pre-negotiation is essential for making sure everyone is safe and all parties get what they want out of the role play.
If you want to build a hot scene while staying in character, another idea is for you and your partner to get fake email addresses to communicate through. There you can chat and develop your character’s relationship and motivations while separating your play from your everyday life.
Get your costumes and props
You don’t need any props or costumes to get started with role play in the bedroom, but they can be fun to have and help set the mood. Whether you purchase special costumes, break out that sexy outfit you’ve been saving for a special occasion, or just throw on something you wouldn’t normally wear, it can help give you confidence in your role play and get you into the mindset of the character you’re playing.
Picking a different setting to play in (like the kitchen or home office) can spice things up and get you into the mood as well! Sometimes it really is the little things that make all the difference!
Remember that role play is supposed to be fun, so don’t stress! If things feel awkward or funny, laugh it out and keep going! Nobody is perfect and the experimentation and exploration is what makes role play so fun. After you finish, check in with your partner about what went well, and what to change for the next time.
Role play can seem daunting at first, but most people who try it find it to be exciting and a lot less stressful after they actually do! It can be an easy way to spice things up and get yourself out of a rut, especially during stressful times. Everyone is curious about what it’s like to be someone else, so why not try it and see how it feels? Drop a comment below with your favorite role play dynamic or one that you’d like to try. Who knows, you might give us and other readers some hot new ideas!